Over the weekend I got to thinking about my life – where I’ve been, where I am and where I’m going. At 28 I’ve had some crippling days and some joyous moments – all have landed me where I currently am in life. From a young age I was in control of my own life – it was up to me to make decisions about my future and my happiness without a parent around to give me direction. Though it’s been tough I have found extreme satisfaction in being able pilot of life and can’t imagine someone else being in control of my future. I chose to take control of my life and I’m so glad I did.
As a woman and as a single mother I take pride my ability to stand on my own two feet. That I can independently provide food, housing and love to my daughter. That I am able to go out into the world and use my skills to give back to others and support my community. That I’m not a pushover and that I give respect and demand it back. I’m ambitious, at times confident and fearless and I wouldn’t be who I am today without the experiences I’ve been through and choosing to live life on my terms.
Because it’s a choice. You choose to either be a passenger in your life. Or you choose to be the pilot. And the choice is always yours. Will you take control of your life?
Yes, I’m a strong and independent afro-latina, I’ll say it loud and I’ll say it proud. That being said, I do look forward to the day I can share my heart and home with a partner and create a life together. But within that relationship I will still be in control of my own life – I’ll still be the pilot – and within that relationship I’ll stand on my own two feet together with someone moving forward.
I’ll be honest…it’s difficult for me to see people satisfied being the passenger in their own lives. Content with just buckling in and preparing for the ride because they are afraid to stand up for themselves and know their worth. Content with someone being in control and making the decisions, worried that it’d be too difficult to take the lead. And at times I can understand the desire to have someone else take the lead – but to have them be in control of your life? YOUR life? I urge you to seriously re-consider.
When you look back upon your life will you be satisfied with being a passenger? Will you regret not being in more control of your life? At any point in your life you have the opportunity to change your circumstance. If you’re unhappy and unsatisfied with your relationship, your job, your nagging friends. It’s up to you to find the happiness you seek. To create the life you want. To create a life you are satisfied with. It’s no easy process, but I encourage you to start today – start being the pilot in YOUR own life. To take control of your life. Today