I, like many women have had my fair share of love and lusts in my time. Relationships I thought would last forever, and those that crashed and burned right in front of my eyes. So is life – and love. As I’ve gotten older, and since the birth of my daughter I’ve begun reflecting on previous relationships and what I currently seek in a partner.
Which leads me to the question: do women want that wreckless love?
That inconsistent-passionate-fiery-unexpected-rated X-crazy-butterflies love? Umm, yes! Where can I sign up for that? Any of us that have experienced it know its power – what it can do to our body and sanity. It’s a shot of adrenaline, it’s like we are on fire. Burning, hot, madly intertwined with this person. We. Just. Cant. Get. Enough. I’ve been there…many times. It’s this feeling that grows within waiting to be unleashed. And when it breaks free, there is no telling what can happen.
It’s that Fitz & Oliva type love.
But what are the implications in being in such a crazed state? I tend to think most relationships begin like this – hot and heavy – erratic. In my earlier dating years, this is only what I sought, and as a result was what I got. Those were rough years, because for me being in a wreckless love meant I never really knew what I was getting myself into and how things would turn out. And when they fizzled (and they did), I was left confused and hurt.
I’m not actively seeking, but I do think about the type of love I hope to find. And it’s not a wreckless one. I think I got caught up in thinking a wreckless love was the only one in which two people could be madly and passionately in love with one another. But it’s not. Love and affection isn’t what it used to mean to me. I can have the best of both worlds.
I want a love that excites me, spoils me, and keeps me on my toes.
I want a love that protects me, challenges me, and respects me.
I want a love that fulfills me, pleases me, and brings out my best.
I want a love that that keeps the fire going and going and going.
What do you think – do you think women really want wreckless love?