Archive for May, 2010

life purpose

What’s your life purpose?

Have you ever thought about your purpose in life? I took a class last year that helped me think about this quite complex question. Through the following exercise we were able to help understand what our purpose was.

I often find myself drifting. I’m overworked and so always stressing that I forget to think about my goals. I’m just moving through the motions of life, almost like a robot. It’s not something I’m proud of, but at least I acknowledge it. This exercise was huge for me. I mean in my head I knew what I wanted to do when I grow up, I knew what group of people I want to help, and I know that I want to change the world.
But seeing the words on paper. Reading it out loud…it then suddenly came to life. It gave me goosebumps.

My life came to life.

Here are the steps, and be sure to take your time when coming up with the answer. and know that there is no right answer. This is YOUR life purpose.

1. List two of your unique personal traits

2. List one or two ways you enjoy expressing those qualities when interacting with others

3. Assume the world is perfect right now. What does the world look like? How is everyone interacting with everyone else? What does it feel like? Write your answer in a statement, in the present tense, describing the ultimate condition, the perfect world as you see it and feel it. Remember, a perfect world is a fun place to live.

4. Combine the prior three subdivisions into a single statement.

My combined statement is:
My purpose is to use my determination and diligence to inspire and motivate others to support each other, love freely, and become a part of their community.

So have fun with this exercise, and let me know what you come up with!!


love sum Cute Beltz!

A few months ago I took the plunge…and joined twitter (find me: YoungFabMama) and I was instantly greeted by other lovely and spectacular women. I was able to connect with Kristen Ford-Stevens, owner and designer extraordinaire of Cute Beltz, an online boutique child belt store.

Kristen so graciously sent me a beautiful belt to review for all my wonderful FABtastic viewers! And let me tell you, I am beyond pleased with Kristen, Cute Beltz, and the belt we received! Let’s take this step by step.

1 – Packaging -> The belt didn’t arrive in your standard plastic wrap. Nope! Not at Cute Beltz. Our belt came in a beautiful little box, like a special surprise! I waited until my daughter came home and we opened it together, which she thoroughly enjoyed!
 2 – Style -> My daughter changes about…5 times a day. Style is important to her J The belt we received had a beautiful flower design that lil mama fell in love with. Literally! After she wore it to school, she then brought it with her in her bag to school. She is a bit of a showoff. And now she wants to wear it with every outfit. She is now even more excited about getting dressed in the morning and the belt adds a great touch to her outfits!

3 – Durability -> Some of the belts I have received in the past have tattered due to poor construction. This is not the case here. The belt is durable, it’s sturdy, and seems like it will withstand 4 year old grabby hands! The quality of the material, 1” 100% cotton webbing, and fabric shows and as a Mom I appreciate the durability and longevity of the belt.
4 – Coupon -> Our special flower belt was amazing, but that wasn’t all we got! Included in our package was a coupon. HOORAY! I love love love coupons, hehe. I have promised lil mama that once she sleeps in her bed for a whole month we can together order her a new belt.
I love the variety of fabrics Cute Beltz offers, and they have equally fabtastic belts for lil guys too! Belts are $14.95 and come in an array of great designs. From the chocolate raspberry to the tutti fruitti to the sand-and-sea belts, you are bound to find 1…or 2 belts to add to your childs wardrobe!
With each belt you have the option of choosing a D-ring or Velcro closing. And oh, the gift sets!! For just $25.99 you can receive a beautiful gift set that includes a cute belt along with a bracelet that compliments the belt! It’s a great addition to an outfit or gift for that lil lady in your life!   
I am so happy I was able to connect with Kristen and find out more about Cute Beltz, and I hope you all check out all the fabtastic and oh-so-stylish belts on their website!!
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I give you back

While doing my homework last night I came across this emotionally awakening poem by Joy Harjo that I had to share with you all. It awoke my emotional senses and after reading Joy’s poem I feel different. I hope to one day be able to share and  show my feelings like Joy does with this poem. Enjoy.

I Give You Back
By Joy Harjo
I release you, my beautiful and terrible fear.
I release you.
You were my beloved and hated twin, but now, I don
t know you as myself.
I release you with all the pain I would know at the death of my daughters.
You are not my blood anymore.
I give you back to the white soldiers
who burned down my home, beheaded my children,
raped and sodomized my brothers and sisters.
I give you back to those who stole the food from
our plates when we were starving.
I release you, fear, because you hold these scenes
in front of me and I was born with eyes that can never close.
I release you, fear, so you can no longer keep me naked
and frozen in the winter, or smothered under blankets in the summer.
I release you
I release you
I release you
I release you
I am not afraid to be angry.
I am not afraid to rejoice.
I am not afraid to be black
I am not afraid to be white.
I am not afraid to be hungry.
I am not afraid to be full.
I am not afraid to be hated.
I am not afraid to be loved,

to be loved, to be loved, fear.
Oh, you have choked me, but I gave you the leash.
You have gutted me but I gave you the knife.

You have devoured me, but I laid myself across the fire.
I take myself back, fear.

You are not my shadow any longer.
I won
t hold you in my hands.
You can
t live in my eyes, my ears, my voice my belly, or in my heart
my heart my heart my heart.
But come here, fear.

I am alive and you are so afraid of dying.